Women In Combat

January 26, 2013

Call me old fashioned and unenlightened but sending women to the front lines seems suicidal for the women on those front lines and detrimental to the men who will be beside them, relying on them. Assuming that some of them will live through the experience, how well will they be treated by their male captors? This thought is literally (to use an overused word) horrifying. It is impossible for me to believe that young women like our Hannah should be in direct combat. What is happening to our society and the common sense we had in the past? Lest you think I’m overly sexist (perhaps I am), let me point you to this article by a Kathleen Parker, a columnist for the Washington Post. Here are a few quotes:

But ground combat is one area in which women, through quirks of biology and human nature, are not equal to men — a difference that should be celebrated rather than rationalized as incorrect…

If the enemy is all around you — and you need every available person — that is one set of circumstances. To ask women to engage vicious men and risk capture under any other is beyond understanding. This is not a movie or a game. Every objective study has argued against women in direct combat for reasons that haven’t changed.

“Beyond understanding” says is all.

Destinations

January 22, 2013

Affairs look tantalizing. They seems to offer delight that can’t be found in our marriages. Here is a New York Times article detailing the devastating cost of dalliance.

Women, porn is coming your way. The success of the 50 Shades series has opened the eyes of those who make the stuff to the potential of the female market. Tim Challies writes about the new porn emphases tailored to women.

Today is the fortieth anniversary of Roe v. Wade. As you no doubt know, 51 million human babies have been slaughtered since then. Russell Moore relates the gospel to abortion.

Our children require energy to raise. Fortunately, there are many technological baby sitters that work for little or no money. But is this a good thing? Here is a helpful short article entitled “Why Not Be Engulfed in Technology?”

Douglas Wilson insightfully deals with the question as to whether faithful Roman Catholics will be saved.

Destinations

January 4, 2013

B003D0TAM8.01._SX490_SCLZZZZZZZ_V190274968_I never feel that I am reading enough. I already have enough books to literally last the rest of my life. With this problem in mind, here is a strategy to read 50 books this year. Let me know how it works for you.

Russell Moore asks whether the Pro-life side is really winning.

A feminist leader once said that most Americans are pro-life with three exceptions: rape, incest, and “my situation.” When the teenage daughter is pregnant, the theory is abandoned and bloodthirsty pragmatism rules. I fear this feminist is all too right.

Tim Challies reviews the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop TalkingIf you tend to be an introvert like me, Tim offers a helpful corrective in his analysis.

Sinclair Ferguson writes about How to Mortify Sin. Sinclair is always helpful.

Kevin DeYoung writes of three simple ways to pray using scripture: rejoice, repent, and request. Good stuff.

Even the Catholics struggle with egalitarian creep:

Debbie alerted me to this graphic. Sums things up pretty well.

From Jen Smidt

I recently came across a 20-year-old photo of Phil and me when we were dating. I started thinking about how very little I knew about relationships, men, and marriage then.

Formulating a list of what I would tell myself back then, my advice began with a stern warning to stay away from any man with a mullet . . . but then again, it was the ’90s—every man had a mullet!

On a more serious note, these are eight principles that would have taken much confusion and heartbreak out of those tumultuous dating years. I hope they help you:

1. Repeat after me: “You are loved.”

I am not kidding. Repeat. After. Me. Out loud, often, with conviction. These are such simple words to say, but they have the most deep and resounding impact on our souls if we would just believe.

God says to his daughters in Jeremiah: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.” Until you have tasted God’s eternal, steadfast, redeeming love, hold off on looking for a man. You may just end up settling for a quick love that cannot fill your core heart’s longing. Even if you are not currently being pursued by a man, you are constantly being pursued by Jesus.

2. You are less beautiful than you think and more beautiful than you believe.

Our sin makes us ugly. No amount of makeup, clothing, or confident, flirtatious façade can change that fact. It takes a humble, redeemed woman changed by God to admit the ugliness of her sin and rest in her beauty in Christ. We must repent of our pride, our shame, our obsession with our looks. We must believe and embrace who God made us to be: beautiful in his image.

True beauty emanates from a woman who boldly and unabashedly knows who she is in Christ.

3. Consider what controls you.

Is it fear, loneliness, demand for a man, seeking approval, career, money?

Let the love of Christ control you. Pay attention to what is controlling your heart as you wait for a date, are in a dating relationship, or even into marriage. We settle for lesser gods than the one who died for us and love us unconditionally.

“For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who might live no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised.” 2 Corinthians 5:14–15

4. Address your daddy issues.

Most of us have them—wounds on our hearts from our earthly fathers and their shortcomings. Whether yours was absent and uninvolved or abusive and abandoning, don’t let him define who you believe your heavenly Father to be. Even if you have a godly and protective father, he is not God.

You are not looking for a dad-duplicate or a dad-replacement in a man. You have a perfect heavenly Father.

Let Scripture reveal to you who God is as Dad and what kind of care he gives his daughters.

“If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” Luke 11:13

5. Charm and beauty are not a good dating plan.

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

Often, our grand scheme for how to snag a date goes only skin-deep. We put massive pressure on ourselves to pour on the charm and look cute wherever we go, not realizing that a godly man will also be concerned about inner beauty. God certainly is.

“But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:4

A woman who fears the Lord is one who, despite her desire for a date, fears being far away from God more than she does missing out on a man who is easily fooled by her exterior.

6. Realize you are already submitting—or are you?

Submission is not only for wives. God asks for a submitted heart now, one that trusts in his provision and plan for your life, including dating. Ultimately, dating, and all of life, is about submission—waiting and trusting God and saying as Jesus does, “Not my will but yours be done.”

This does not, however, leave you helpless, hopeless, and hamstrung in the relationship department. A godly woman can express friendly interest in a brother in Christ.

  • •It is OK to mingle—but don’t manipulate.
  • •Peruse—but don’t pursue. Let him initiate.
  • •Take notice of the godly men serving Jesus around you—but never stalk. It’s creepy.
  • •Cross paths with a man who interests you—but don’t tackle him.

7. Dress to kill . . .

. . . your evil desires and his. We all know what it’s like to be noticed for what we wear. Your desire to draw attention to yourself is vanity. Do not falsely advertise what is not available to anyone but your future husband. Don’t open the door for men to make assumptions about you by what you wear. Help your brothers in Christ by dressing modestly and appropriately (and by all means, neatly, cleanly, and fashionably!) Check your heart for your motives when you dress.

8. Guard your heart.

Guarding one’s heart is still an issue even if no one is overtly vying for it.  Watch out for the “might be” snare, as in, “He ‘might be’ flirting with me and so I’m going to get carried away thinking about every possible place [read: marriage] that could lead.”

It is entirely possible to honor God, yourself, and a brother in Christ on a date. Don’t elevate him or the relationship to the place that God alone should hold in your heart. Enjoy, don’t idolize . . . and for goodness sake, relax! A cup of coffee does not necessarily mean a diamond ring is soon to follow.

As a single woman, give your heart fully, wholly, unabashedly, and devotedly to Christ alone.

Be active, vigilant, and careful about how much of your heart you give to a man. Be able to walk away from a dating relationship with your whole heart intact so that your future husband is not robbed of part of it down the road. Prayerfully consider what, when, how much to give away.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

(HT: The Resurgence)

 

Destinations

March 9, 2012

Birthdays are like New Years Eve to me. They aren’t much fun. Here Amy Scott articulates why birthdays are better ignored. Pretty funny and Amen.

As you probably know, yesterday was “International Women’s Day.” Here is Mary Kassian’s take on the day. In the end she encourages women to be women and men to be men:

Men and women are equal, but different. I believe that we will see the dignity of women upheld when we embrace our God-given differences—not when we deny them. What we women need is to be women—to be the relaters, responders, mothers and nurturers that God created us to be. And we need you men to step up to the plate and be men—to be the providers, protectors and fathers that God created you to be. We need you to assume the responsibility of leadership in our homes and communities and to go to bat for women who are abused, downtrodden, oppressed, and forgotten. We don’t need women to be more like men—or men to be more like women. We need radical, counter-cultural men and women who dare to delight in God’s design.

This last one is too good to ignore. I was alerted to this by Wes. Do you believe in the Rapture, the gathering of God’s people at the beginning of the Tribulation? Who’s going to watch Fido and Frisky while you’re basking in the glow of the Marriage Supper of the Lamb? Why not pay an atheist to do it? Here, you can pay a mere $135 ($20 for each additional animal) for the peace of mind knowing that you won’t be neglecting your pet while you’re in Paradise. Don’t get mad at me for this; I simply couldn’t resist. Wait a minute … I don’t believe in the Dispensational Rapture either. I’ll take care of your vermin for $100.

It is always difficult for men to comment on women or their roles. After all, what does a man know? I hear this all the time in one form or another. So, here’s a conversation by women about women.


(HT: True Woman)